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happiness that neither of us would have believed possible during
the first year of our married life.
"I have found that the woman must have the entire charge of the
time and number of approaches in a week or month, and that when
she is for any reason disinclined to the sexual act the husband
must keep away, no matter how he feels about the matter. Also the
man must be sure that his wife reaches the orgasm or is at the
point of it before he allows himself to 'let go.'
"Our meetings have averaged eight or nine a month. During the
latter months of pregnancy they were _nil_, and in the month
following an enforced separation of several weeks they were
fourteen. We have never tried nor had the slightest curiosity to
know how far we could indulge ourselves.
"For myself I seem to demand a gratification of the sexual desire
rather oftener than my wife, and when I feel I cannot get a good
night's rest without first being relieved of my seminal burden,
while at the same time my wife is disinclined to the sexual act,
I have her perform manual manipulation until relief is effected.
Mind, I say _relief_, for the emission gives me very little
pleasure under these circumstances, but it does give _relief_. In
my present health I find I cannot sleep well if I go over more
than two nights without an emission. My wife understands my
condition, and is entirely willing to assist me in this way when
she feels she cannot give me the gratification which I crave. We
have come to see sex matters as they are, and respect and
reverence have taken the place of ignorance and fear.
"To sum up, owing to lack of circumcision the sex instinct
developed too soon and out of all proportion during my early
youth. I cannot see that masturbation has ever had the slightest
bad effect upon my health or mental state (except as I was
constantly loathing myself more or less for being unable to stop
"The husband must subordinate himself to the wife in order to
obtain the highest good and pleasure of both.
"I have always been successful in my undertakings. Stood at the
head of my class at school, and in my professional work graduated
with highest honors. I have a memory for prose or verse that is
the cause of envy to many of my friends. The facts here set down
are recorded in the interest of advancing study along this most
important but neglected and ignored line. That they have been
truthfully recorded without favor to the black or light on the
white is my sincere belief."
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