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CONTENTS
ANALYSIS OF THE SEXUAL IMPULSE-1
ANALYSIS OF THE SEXUAL IMPULSE-2
ANALYSIS OF THE SEXUAL IMPULSE-3
ANALYSIS OF THE SEXUAL IMPULSE-4
ANALYSIS OF THE SEXUAL IMPULSE-5
ANALYSIS OF THE SEXUAL IMPULSE-6
ANALYSIS OF THE SEXUAL IMPULSE-7
ANALYSIS OF THE SEXUAL IMPULSE-8
ANALYSIS OF THE SEXUAL IMPULSE-9
ANALYSIS OF THE SEXUAL IMPULSE-10
FOOTNOTES
LOVE AND PAIN-1.1
LOVE AND PAIN-1.2
LOVE AND PAIN-1.3
LOVE AND PAIN-1.4
LOVE AND PAIN-1.5
LOVE AND PAIN-1.6
LOVE AND PAIN-2.1
LOVE AND PAIN-2.2
LOVE AND PAIN-2.3
LOVE AND PAIN-2.4
LOVE AND PAIN-3.1
LOVE AND PAIN-3.2
LOVE AND PAIN-3.3
LOVE AND PAIN-3.4
LOVE AND PAIN-4
LOVE AND PAIN-5.1
LOVE AND PAIN-5.2
LOVE AND PAIN-6.1
LOVE AND PAIN-6.2
LOVE AND PAIN-7
THE SEXUAL IMPULSE IN WOMEN-1.1
THE SEXUAL IMPULSE IN WOMEN-1.2
THE SEXUAL IMPULSE IN WOMEN-1.3
THE SEXUAL IMPULSE IN WOMEN-1.4
THE SEXUAL IMPULSE IN WOMEN-1.5
THE SEXUAL IMPULSE IN WOMEN-1.6
THE SEXUAL IMPULSE IN WOMEN-2.1
THE SEXUAL IMPULSE IN WOMEN-2.2
THE SEXUAL IMPULSE IN WOMEN-2.3
THE SEXUAL IMPULSE IN WOMEN-3
APPENDIX A-1
APPENDIX A-2-3
APPENDIX B HISTORY-1
APPENDIX B HISTORY-2
APPENDIX B HISTORY-3-4-5-6-7
APPENDIX B HISTORY-8-9-10
APPENDIX B HISTORY-11-12
APPENDIX B HISTORY-13
APPENDIX B HISTORY-14-15
APPENDIX B HISTORY-16
APPENDIX B HISTORY-17
APPENDIX B HISTORY-18
APPENDIX B HISTORY-19
INDEX OF AUTHORS

 

Among savages and barbarous races in various parts of the world 

it is the recognized custom, reversing the more usual method, for 

the girl to take the initiative in courtship. This is especially 

so in New Guinea. Here the girls almost invariably take the 

initiative, and in consequence hold a very independent position. 

Women are always regarded as the seducers: "Women steal men." A 

youth who proposed to a girl would be making himself ridiculous, 

would be called a woman, and be laughed at by the girls. The 

usual method by which a girl proposes is to send a present to the 

youth by a third party, following this up by repeated gifts of 

food; the young man sometimes waits a month or two, receiving 

presents all the time, in order to assure himself of the girl's 

constancy before decisively accepting her advances. (A.C. Haddon, 

_Cambridge Expedition to Torres Straits_, vol. v, ch. viii; id., 

"Western Tribes of Torres Straits," _Journal of the 

Anthropological Institute_, vol. xix, February, 1890, pp. 314, 

356, 394, 395, 411, 413; id., _Head Hunters_, pp. 158-164; R.E. 

Guise, "Tribes of the Wanigela River," _Journal of the 

Anthropological Institute_, new series, vol. i, February-May, 

1899, p. 209.) Westermarck gives instances of races among whom 

the women take the initiative in courtship. (_History of 

Marriage_, p. 158; so also Finck, _Primitive Love and 

Love-stories_, 1899, p. 109 et seq.; and as regards Celtic women, 

see Rhys and Brynmor Jones, _The Welsh People_.) 

 

 

There is another characteristic of great significance by which the sexual 

impulse in women differs from that in men: the widely unlike character of 

the physical mechanism involved in the process of coitus. Considering how 

obvious this difference is, it is strange that its fundamental importance 

should so often be underrated. In man the process of tumescence and 

detumescence is simple. In women it is complex. In man we have the more or 

less spontaneously erectile penis, which needs but very simple conditions 

to secure the ejaculation which brings relief. In women we have in the 

clitoris a corresponding apparatus on a small scale, but behind this has 

developed a much more extensive mechanism, which also demands 

satisfaction, and requires for that satisfaction the presence of various 

conditions that are almost antagonistic. Naturally the more complex 

mechanism is the more easily disturbed. It is the difference, roughly 

speaking, between a lock and a key. This analogy is far from indicating 

all the difficulties involved. We have to imagine a lock that not only 

requires a key to fit it, but should only be entered at the right moment, 

and, under the best conditions, may only become adjusted to the key by 

considerable use. The fact that the man takes the more active part in 

coitus has increased these difficulties; the woman is too often taught to 

believe that the whole function is low and impure, only to be submitted to 

at her husband's will and for his sake, and the man has no proper 

knowledge of the mechanism involved and the best way of dealing with it. 

The grossest brutality thus may be, and not infrequently is, exercised in 

all innocence by an ignorant husband who simply believes that he is 

performing his "marital duties." For a woman to exercise this physical 

brutality on a man is with difficulty possible; a man's pleasurable 

excitement is usually the necessary condition of the woman's sexual 

gratification. But the reverse is not the case, and, if the man is 

sufficiently ignorant or sufficiently coarse-grained to be satisfied with 

the woman's submission, he may easily become to her, in all innocence, a 

cause of torture. 

 

To the man coitus must be in some slight degree pleasurable or it cannot 

take place at all. To the woman the same act which, under some 

circumstances, in the desire it arouses and the satisfaction it imparts, 


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