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CONTENTS
ANALYSIS OF THE SEXUAL IMPULSE-1
ANALYSIS OF THE SEXUAL IMPULSE-2
ANALYSIS OF THE SEXUAL IMPULSE-3
ANALYSIS OF THE SEXUAL IMPULSE-4
ANALYSIS OF THE SEXUAL IMPULSE-5
ANALYSIS OF THE SEXUAL IMPULSE-6
ANALYSIS OF THE SEXUAL IMPULSE-7
ANALYSIS OF THE SEXUAL IMPULSE-8
ANALYSIS OF THE SEXUAL IMPULSE-9
ANALYSIS OF THE SEXUAL IMPULSE-10
FOOTNOTES
LOVE AND PAIN-1.1
LOVE AND PAIN-1.2
LOVE AND PAIN-1.3
LOVE AND PAIN-1.4
LOVE AND PAIN-1.5
LOVE AND PAIN-1.6
LOVE AND PAIN-2.1
LOVE AND PAIN-2.2
LOVE AND PAIN-2.3
LOVE AND PAIN-2.4
LOVE AND PAIN-3.1
LOVE AND PAIN-3.2
LOVE AND PAIN-3.3
LOVE AND PAIN-3.4
LOVE AND PAIN-4
LOVE AND PAIN-5.1
LOVE AND PAIN-5.2
LOVE AND PAIN-6.1
LOVE AND PAIN-6.2
LOVE AND PAIN-7
THE SEXUAL IMPULSE IN WOMEN-1.1
THE SEXUAL IMPULSE IN WOMEN-1.2
THE SEXUAL IMPULSE IN WOMEN-1.3
THE SEXUAL IMPULSE IN WOMEN-1.4
THE SEXUAL IMPULSE IN WOMEN-1.5
THE SEXUAL IMPULSE IN WOMEN-1.6
THE SEXUAL IMPULSE IN WOMEN-2.1
THE SEXUAL IMPULSE IN WOMEN-2.2
THE SEXUAL IMPULSE IN WOMEN-2.3
THE SEXUAL IMPULSE IN WOMEN-3
APPENDIX A-1
APPENDIX A-2-3
APPENDIX B HISTORY-1
APPENDIX B HISTORY-2
APPENDIX B HISTORY-3-4-5-6-7
APPENDIX B HISTORY-8-9-10
APPENDIX B HISTORY-11-12
APPENDIX B HISTORY-13
APPENDIX B HISTORY-14-15
APPENDIX B HISTORY-16
APPENDIX B HISTORY-17
APPENDIX B HISTORY-18
APPENDIX B HISTORY-19
INDEX OF AUTHORS

 

"I don't think that what I said to you was quite correct. 

_Actual_ pain gives me no pleasure, yet the _idea_ of pain does, 

_if inflicted by way of discipline and for the ultimate good of 

the person suffering it_. This is essential. For instance, I once 

read a poem in which the devil and the lost souls in hell were 

represented as recognizing that they could not be good except 

under torture, but that while suffering the purifying actions of 

the flames of hell they so realized the beauty of holiness that 

they submitted willingly to their agony and praised God for the 

sternness of his judgment. This poem gave me decided physical 

pleasure, yet I know that if my hand were held in a fire for five 

minutes I should feel nothing but the pain of the burning. To get 

the feeling of pleasure, too, I must, for the moment, revert to 

my old religious beliefs and my old notion that mere suffering 

has an elevating influence; one's emotions are greatly modified 

by one's beliefs. When I was about fifteen I invented a game 

which I played with a younger sister, in which we were supposed 

to be going through a process of discipline and preparation for 

heaven after death. Each person was supposed to enter this state 

on dying and to pass successively into the charge of different 

angels named after the special virtues it was their function to 

instill. The last angel was that of Love, who governed solely by 

the quality whose name he bore. In the lower stages, we were 

under an angel called Severity who prepared us by extreme 

harshness and by exacting implicit obedience to arbitrary orders 

for the acquirement of later virtues. Our duties were to 

superintend the weather, paint the sunrise and sunset, etc., the 

constant work involved exercising us in patience and submission. 

The physical pleasure came in in inventing and recounting to each 

other our day's work and the penalties and hardships we had been 

subjected to. We never told each other that we got any physical 

pleasure out of this, and I cannot therefore be sure that my 

sister did so; I only imagine she did because she entered so 

heartily into the spirit of the game. I could get as much 

pleasure by imagining myself the angel and inflicting the pain, 

under the conditions mentioned; but my sister did not like this 

so much, as she then had no companion in subjection. I could not, 

however, thus reverse my feelings in regard to a man, as it would 

appear to me unnatural, and, besides, the greater physical 

strength is essential in the superior position. I can, however, 

by imagining myself a man, sometimes get pleasure in conceiving 

myself as educating and disciplining a woman by severe measures. 

There is, however, no real cruelty in this idea, as I always 

imagine her liking it. 

 

"I only get pleasure in the idea of a woman submitting herself to 

pain and harshness from the man she loves when the following 

conditions are fulfilled: 1. She must be absolutely sure of the 

man's love. 2. She must have perfect confidence in his judgment. 

3. The pain must be deliberately inflicted, not accidental. 4. It 

must be inflicted in kindness and for her own improvement, not in 

anger or with any revengeful feelings, as that would spoil one's 

ideal of the man. 5. The pain must not be excessive and must be 

what when we were children we used to call a 'tidy' pain; i.e., 

there must be no mutilation, cutting, etc. 6. Last, one would 

have to feel very sure of one's own influence over the man. So 

much for the idea. As I have never suffered pain under a 

combination of all these conditions, I have no right to say that 

I should or should not experience pleasure from its infliction in 

reality." 

 

Another lady writes: "I quite agree that the idea of pain may be 


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