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CONTENTS
ANALYSIS OF THE SEXUAL IMPULSE-1
ANALYSIS OF THE SEXUAL IMPULSE-2
ANALYSIS OF THE SEXUAL IMPULSE-3
ANALYSIS OF THE SEXUAL IMPULSE-4
ANALYSIS OF THE SEXUAL IMPULSE-5
ANALYSIS OF THE SEXUAL IMPULSE-6
ANALYSIS OF THE SEXUAL IMPULSE-7
ANALYSIS OF THE SEXUAL IMPULSE-8
ANALYSIS OF THE SEXUAL IMPULSE-9
ANALYSIS OF THE SEXUAL IMPULSE-10
FOOTNOTES
LOVE AND PAIN-1.1
LOVE AND PAIN-1.2
LOVE AND PAIN-1.3
LOVE AND PAIN-1.4
LOVE AND PAIN-1.5
LOVE AND PAIN-1.6
LOVE AND PAIN-2.1
LOVE AND PAIN-2.2
LOVE AND PAIN-2.3
LOVE AND PAIN-2.4
LOVE AND PAIN-3.1
LOVE AND PAIN-3.2
LOVE AND PAIN-3.3
LOVE AND PAIN-3.4
LOVE AND PAIN-4
LOVE AND PAIN-5.1
LOVE AND PAIN-5.2
LOVE AND PAIN-6.1
LOVE AND PAIN-6.2
LOVE AND PAIN-7
THE SEXUAL IMPULSE IN WOMEN-1.1
THE SEXUAL IMPULSE IN WOMEN-1.2
THE SEXUAL IMPULSE IN WOMEN-1.3
THE SEXUAL IMPULSE IN WOMEN-1.4
THE SEXUAL IMPULSE IN WOMEN-1.5
THE SEXUAL IMPULSE IN WOMEN-1.6
THE SEXUAL IMPULSE IN WOMEN-2.1
THE SEXUAL IMPULSE IN WOMEN-2.2
THE SEXUAL IMPULSE IN WOMEN-2.3
THE SEXUAL IMPULSE IN WOMEN-3
APPENDIX A-1
APPENDIX A-2-3
APPENDIX B HISTORY-1
APPENDIX B HISTORY-2
APPENDIX B HISTORY-3-4-5-6-7
APPENDIX B HISTORY-8-9-10
APPENDIX B HISTORY-11-12
APPENDIX B HISTORY-13
APPENDIX B HISTORY-14-15
APPENDIX B HISTORY-16
APPENDIX B HISTORY-17
APPENDIX B HISTORY-18
APPENDIX B HISTORY-19
INDEX OF AUTHORS

a struggle." At another time she said: "I want a man with all his 

vitality, so that he can torture and kill my body." We seem to 

see here clearly the ancient biological character of animal 

courtship, the desire of the female to be violently subjugated by 

the male. In this case it was united to sensitiveness to the 

sexual domination of an intellectual man, and the subject also 

sought to stimulate her lovers' intellectual tastes. (_Archivio 

di Psichiatria_, vol. xx, fasc. 5-6, p. 528.) 

 

This association between love and pain still persists even among the most 

normal civilized men and women possessing well-developed sexual impulses. 

The masculine tendency to delight in domination, the feminine tendency to 

delight in submission, still maintain the ancient traditions when the male 

animal pursued the female. The phenomena of "marriage by capture," in its 

real and its simulated forms, have been traced to various causes. But it 

has to be remembered that these causes could only have been operative in 

the presence of a favorable emotional aptitude, constituted by the 

zooelogical history of our race and still traceable even today. To exert 

power, as psychologists well recognize, is one of our most primary 

impulses, and it always tends to be manifested in the attitude of a man 

toward the woman he loves.[73] 

 

It might be possible to maintain that the primitive element of more or 

less latent cruelty in courtship tends to be more rather than less marked 

in civilized man. In civilization the opportunity of dissipating the 

surplus energy of the courtship process by inflicting pain on rivals 

usually has to be inhibited; thus the woman to be wooed tends to become 

the recipient of the whole of this energy, both in its pleasure-giving and 

its pain-giving aspects. Moreover, the natural process of courtship, as it 

exists among animals and usually among the lower human races, tends to 

become disguised and distorted in civilization, as well by economic 

conditions as by conventional social conditions and even ethical 

prescription. It becomes forgotten that the woman's pleasure is an 

essential element in the process of courtship. A woman is often reduced to 

seek a man for the sake of maintenance; she is taught that pleasure is 

sinful or shameful, that sex-matters are disgusting, and that it is a 

woman's duty, and also her best policy, to be in subjection to her 

husband. Thus, various external checks which normally inhibit any passing 

over of masculine sexual energy into cruelty are liable to be removed. 

 

We have to admit that a certain pleasure in manifesting his power over a 

woman by inflicting pain upon her is an outcome and survival of the 

primitive process of courtship, and an almost or quite normal constituent 

of the sexual impulse in man. But it must be at once added that in the 

normal well-balanced and well-conditioned man this constituent of the 

sexual impulse, when present, is always held in check. When the normal man 

inflicts, or feels the impulse to inflict, some degree of physical pain on 

the woman he loves he can scarcely be said to be moved by cruelty. He 

feels, more or less obscurely, that the pain he inflicts, or desires to 

inflict, is really a part of his love, and that, moreover, it is not 

really resented by the woman on whom it is exercised. His feeling is by 

no means always according to knowledge, but it has to be taken into 

account as an essential part of his emotional state. The physical force, 

the teasing and bullying, which he may be moved to exert under the stress 

of sexual excitement, are, he usually more or less unconsciously persuades 

himself, not really unwelcome to the object of his love.[74] Moreover, we 

have to bear in mind the fact--a very significant fact from more than one 

point of view--that the normal manifestations of a woman's sexual pleasure 

are exceedingly like those of pain. "The outward expressions of pain," as 


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